Effort points and daily life....

[Arthes]

I agree Christina. How many times have we gotten bent out of shape because we've put undue pressure on ourselves to try and do this or that, without realistically being able to predict if we can do it or not.

Is it only ourselves who put the undue pressure on, or is it others who openly or sublimely 'force' us to do so..?
How many times are you made to feel that by 'failing' to carry out what is expected of you, others are let down by your actions.
Yet it is not them that are being asked to use their 'effort points' and are using their own viewpoint as to what you 'should' attain, maybe not what you can comfortably attain.
Classic example is the schoolchild who is undermined by brighter siblings or peers and whose parents insist that extra tuition and homework is needed for the child to achieve an appropriate level of 'brightness'
If the child does not have the capability of attaining the level expected, they are 'a failure' and will have to continue to 'work hard' in life to 'make up for it'

Hobbies and social activities are a great example...ever get called on to make plans on the week-end and you sit there and think...gee, will I at that point really have time and energy for that?"

Yes, I do.....you would rather sit and read than go out and 'enjoy yourself' - because the 'enjoyment' entails using energy you find is missing at the point you need it....!
How often have you felt you are 'wasting' time enoying yourself, that could be spent doing something more constructive... :wink: