01-07-2011, 03:21 AM
The Notebook. Amazing. Wonderful story. I hope someday to find love like that in myself. I'm working on it, and she and I have been through some really tough tests. Backstabbing and unmerited blackballing from people we thought were good friends...her major debilitating stroke...a couple of years of abject poverty, gradual recovery to her being able to walk fairly well without assistance...none of those things have damaged our relationship. I love my wife, in spite of the harsh things that have come upon us, in fact, more than before. The outside events and attacks have actually drawn us closer together. I can not envision life without her with me. She makes me worth something. Otherwise, I'd be just another aging slug with no real purpose other than self. This movie made me realize how adversity can be a good thing for relationships, if the people are willing to see the outside's being different from the inside.
No kidding, this movie is beyond all reckoning: war, best friends, young love, joy, despair, indecision, making choices of the heart and not the head, old love, genuine emotions that people who feel life encounter. The film crystallizes emotional outreach, devotion to a loved one, being so devoted to another person that they become more important than yourself. Yeah, some would say for me to say and do things like that makes me less "manly". To those, I say, "Say what you want: you are missing something crucially important." Marriage, real marriage, makes the two partners become one flesh. Simple as that.
If you haven't seen this film, I'd recommend you take your spouse or favorite other with you and watch it together. If you are not humbled by the level of love between this couple in the movie, well, maybe you should consider why not? James Garner's performance was utterly inspired. I won't tell much of the plot, except to say, he's reading a love story (as an old man to his old wife) that spans years to his wife (who lives in an institution because she has intermittent memory loss). That's the notebook. His family wants him to come back home, and not bother with her any more, since the memory loss spells are becoming more frequent. He tells them that he will continue to live in the place, since his sweetheart is there, and that IS his home. Love. Powerful.
Amor vincit omnia. Five stars in my book.
No kidding, this movie is beyond all reckoning: war, best friends, young love, joy, despair, indecision, making choices of the heart and not the head, old love, genuine emotions that people who feel life encounter. The film crystallizes emotional outreach, devotion to a loved one, being so devoted to another person that they become more important than yourself. Yeah, some would say for me to say and do things like that makes me less "manly". To those, I say, "Say what you want: you are missing something crucially important." Marriage, real marriage, makes the two partners become one flesh. Simple as that.
If you haven't seen this film, I'd recommend you take your spouse or favorite other with you and watch it together. If you are not humbled by the level of love between this couple in the movie, well, maybe you should consider why not? James Garner's performance was utterly inspired. I won't tell much of the plot, except to say, he's reading a love story (as an old man to his old wife) that spans years to his wife (who lives in an institution because she has intermittent memory loss). That's the notebook. His family wants him to come back home, and not bother with her any more, since the memory loss spells are becoming more frequent. He tells them that he will continue to live in the place, since his sweetheart is there, and that IS his home. Love. Powerful.
Amor vincit omnia. Five stars in my book.
M. Demetrius Abicio
(David Wills)
Saepe veritas est dura.
(David Wills)
Saepe veritas est dura.
